Time

My original plan for this blog was to post twice a week. I even had a list of subjects and some rough drafts in the pipe so I could stay on top of it. Yeah, you can see how well that has worked out.

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I haven’t written anything except in my private journal for weeks. There are lots of contributing factors – laziness and insecurity top the list. But there is another, better reason: time. Specifically, time spent with family and friends.

I think my last blog post was the week before Memorial Day. Since then we spent a couple of days at the Great Wolf Lodge

with the girls at Great Wolf

drove south 6 hours to celebrate my brother-in-law’s retirement,

eastern washington

came home and packed to go 7 hours the other direction to spend two weeks with friends in NE Washington while my husband painted their house and cabin.

David painting

Those two weeks I was mostly without internet access, so I wasn’t even on social media much. (Which by the way was a blessing.) Instead, I hung out with my friend and enjoyed a little farm life.

We came “home” (Home is wherever we park our trailer – for now that’s in Lewis County.) to appointments and more paint jobs for David. I spent the next two weeks playing with grandkids, taking a hike, helping out at a musical theater camp and enjoying the weather. Since my last blog there have been two wedding anniversaries, one birthday and baby girl learned to crawl. 🙂

Retirement has forced me to think about time in a different way. It’s easy to lose track of even what day of the week it is. Time can just slip by while I read or watch a movie. On the other hand, I can go to lunch or dinner with a friend and not be continuously watching the clock. Time doesn’t always equal “productivity” now. Instead, time is an investment in savoring relationships, in reveling in nature, in being “in the moment.” It’s one of the things I love most about this stage of life. So, forgive me if I don’t “produce” one or two blogs a week, or a month, I’m probably out spending time on what matters most to me.

While we were on our little Eastern Washington sabbatical, we watched the 1994 movie, I.Q. starring Meg Ryan and Walter Mathau. It’s one of our favorites. There is a scene where Edward (the romantic hero in the story) meets Katharine’s (the girl he’s in love with) uncle (who happens to be Albert Einstein) and his three brilliant friends. Einstein’s friends are having this existential argument about time, so they ask Edward, “So young man, do you think time exists?” Edward proceeds to tell about a story he read in Popular Science Magazine about twin brothers. One brother traveled in a space ship into space at the speed of light. The other brother stayed on earth. The astronaut brother returns years later and is still young while his brother is now an old man. Edward asks, “Which one do you think is happier?” The scientists all agree that the young brother must be happiest. Edwards says, “No. It’s the one who stayed on earth.” He goes on to explain, “The twin who stayed has had a full life and he’s had experiences and love and pain and he has a family and friends, and the one who left – well – time has just passed.” (If you want, you can watch the clip. The part I like starts at about :50 and goes to 1:47)

I don’t know about you, but I want to really live the remaining time that I’ve been given, I don’t want time to just pass.

For everything there is a season,
    a time for every activity under heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:1

Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.
Ecclesiastes 3:11

 

 

 

A New Name, A New Focus

I did a little crowd sourcing this past week and received the confirmation I needed to begin a new blog focusing on women in the second half of life. After several hours of brainstorming and some good input from friends, I landed on the title “Autumn Gospel.” Some of the other ideas I received will be useful for future posts, (so thank you for your wonderful input!)  but I love the feel and the focus of these two words together and I think they accurately represent my goal for this blog. I even bought the domain name. Not sure what I’m going to do with it, but it’s mine! AutumnGospel.com

Autumn: A season of harvesting good things, of vibrant color, of change, of maturity.

Gospel: Good news! Glad tidings! Truth.

Many of the issues facing women today are universal and not specific to a particular age or season of life. However, there are some unique challenges that women in their 50s and 60s (and beyond) face.

While most of us are empty-nesters,  I have friends who still have children in high school or college, or are home again after college. I have friends who are raising grandchildren. Many of my friends have aging parents that need their help to one degree or another. Some of my friends are dealing with the grief that follows the death of one or both of their parents or their spouse. We have grown “children” and sometimes knowing how to be a parent to grownups is a challenge. We want to be intentional about grand-parenting.

We want to be healthy and active and we care about our weight, and our physical fitness and strength, and we still care about fashion (we don’t want to look and dress like 20 year-olds, but please – not like “old ladies” either!) Do we dye our hair, or go natural?

After years of raising families and working full or part-time jobs, many of us find ourselves wondering how to live with purpose in these years when we feel we still have so much to give. We definitely don’t want to be put on the shelf, or “put out to pasture!” At the same time, this may also be a time when life slows down enough for the “cracks” in our souls to show up. Guilt, shame, unforgiveness, and unfulfilled hopes and dreams can cause depression and hopelessness over the future.

We also care deeply about our spiritual health. We want to continue to grow and mature in our faith. We want to be available to mentor and coach a younger generation.

This is a complex season and I hope this will be a place to process and gain insight in how to live this part of life with joy and hope. I want to embrace and enjoy these beautiful autumn years

So, welcome to my updated and re-focused blog. I welcome your comments and would love to hear subjects that you would like to discuss. I would love to interview some of you and hear your stories.

Welcome to the Autumn Gospel. There is so much good news and beauty to share!